EP 26: High On Self, Sex, Hustle and Spells w/ Sophie St. Thomas
Updated: Jun 30
Sophie Saint Thomas is a journalist and author based in New York City originally from the U.S. Virgin Islands. Her writing is published in GQ, Playboy, VICE, Cosmopolitan, Forbes, Allure, Glamour, Marie Claire, High Times, Nylon, Refinery29, Complex, Harper’s Bazaar, PRIDE Magazine, SELF, and more. Her writing focuses on sex, drugs, and rock ‘n’ roll as well as the occult and other subcultures. Saint Thomas is the author of multiple books, including Finding Your Higher Self: Your Guide to Cannabis for Self-Care and The Little Book of CBD for Self-Care. She is currently working on her third book titled Sex Witch: Magickal Spells for Love, Lust, and Self-Protection.
Some Questions I Ask:
- How do you stay relevant?
- What has been the most emotionally challenging piece you ever wrote?
- What are your 3 best tips for any creative hustler?
- If you really wanted to piss off the Status quo what would you say and do?
- Tell us about sex clubs - what was the best and the worst experience and how has that improved your personal sex life?
- Tonight is New Moon, what’s the best ritual or practice, the intention we can set or do in these times of divide?
In This Episode You Will Learn:
About creative hustling, sex clubs, witchcraft, new moon rituals, dealing with haters, religion, her future spell book ‘Sex Witch’ and much more.
I used to fear how my writing might come across more when I was younger, before making the leap to writing full time. I discovered then that holding back doesn’t do you much in this industry but now we live in a time where everyone is under scrutiny and any writer would be lying if they said they didn’t worry about that. If you are talking about what sexual topics I would write about, no, I don’t have a lot of fear with that, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with them.
Sexual assault, rape, gender, we are probably having conversations that should have happened decades ago but didn’t.
The 3 best tips for any creative hustler:
When you are starting out unless you have family money or a trust fund I would say don’t quit your day job. You have to take care of yourself, work hard, and be willing to do it on the side.
Ask for what you want, you have to fight, you have to be aggressive, you have to get really really used to rejection ‘cause a lot of your pitches are going to be rejected or not responded to. All my book deals came from asking for them, saying I want to write this book and then going and getting that.
You can’t be afraid. You can’t half do it, you have to be willing to take a risk.
About the sex clubs, it’s difficult for me to pinpoint just one of the best things they’ve done for me because the thing they’ve done for me the most is to provide me with a community who thinks about sex and weed the same way I do.
People don’t know how romantic it can be to go there with a partner and have sex or do something voyeuristic or have a threesome. To have unique sexual experiences I find it very bonding and very strengthening with my current relationship.
It feels a lot safer to me than to go on Tinder when looking to meet sexual partners.
Some clubs are better than others at keeping the creepers out of the way.
If you wanted to hear my worst party experiences, fucked up stuff where I saw people being drugged and raped, I’d have to go back to college and talk about frat parties.
These times are unprecedented so I’m taking it one day at a time.
I worship myself, I worship my powers and my power and will of manifestation. People worship different deities, I kind of do the opposite of what they tell you in recovery groups that it’s I am my own Higher Power.
So many religions just seem death cults to me.
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